Conflict or disagreement amongst students happens when children get together but mean words, gestures, or physical actions are unacceptable ways to deal with conflict at school.
At Summit Elementary, students are taught positive ways to deal with these situations. To do this, we use “Kelso's Choice,” a conflict management program for children. It teaches students the difference between "big" problems (problems they should get an adult's help with) and "small" problems (things they can solve all by themselves). This program equips students with the tools to make good choices and to become independent problem solvers! When faced with “small” problems students are encouraged to try two of the following nine “Kelso Choices:”
1. Go to another game
2. Share and take turns
3. Talk it out
4. Walk away
5. Ignore it
6. Tell them to stop
8. Make a deal
9. Wait and cool off
By using “Kelso Choices” we believe our students will develop effective strategies to help them deal with conflict in a positive manner and learn to make appropriate choices.
“Kelso’s Choices” is taught in my counseling lessons and reviewed or reinforced in all classrooms at Summit. Additionally, posters illustrating ways to deal with conflict are posted in the school so all children will know the nine choices. We encourage parents to become familiar with this program and use it in their home. By working together, we can develop a wonderful life skill for students to use at home and at school.